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week of August 31, 2019
How Black-and-White Thinking Distorts Your Perception of Life
Condensed from www.Learning-Mind.com
Black-and-white thinking divides reality into light and dark with a clean cut, canceling its complexity, ambiguity, and every nuance. It makes us think in terms of “all or nothing.”
Exercising black-and-white thinking means believing that things can be completely right or totally wrong, that people are either friends or foes, that the days are perfect or a nightmare, that what is not a success is a failure, and that all that is not virtuous is vicious. It is now or never. We are beautiful or ugly, you love or you hate, and so on.
In short, black-and-white thinking tends to define a situation by making clear, rigid and permanent distinctions with only two opposing categories: good or bad. Here are three examples:
• Seeing only one side of a situation.
• Ignoring the contrary evidence and not questioning one’s source of information.
• Getting into heated arguments with those who do not share one’s opinions.
A cognitive distortion
Thus, black-and-white thinking is a cognitive distortion, one of the many biases that can obscure our ability to judge and make good decisions. Black-and-white thinking is reassuring, at least in the short term, but in the long run it has several disadvantages:
• Limits our ability to connect with and understand the world, which is not always black or white.
• Reduces the number of choices we have available and erases any possibility of mediation and synthesis. And when we erase possible choices, it becomes easy to feel angry or impotent, or both at the same time.
• Precludes creative solutions. The judgments are unquestionable, so there is no room for the invention of any better alternative.
• Leads to an egocentric and childish way of thinking.
• Induces depression: What is not good will continue to be worse; what is wrong will become irreparable; what is negative will become catastrophic.
Schematic Realities
And yet, we are surrounded by interesting dichotomous schematizations: Nature and Culture. East and West. Peace and War. Public and Private. Masculine and Feminine. Vice and Virtue. City and Countryside. Freedom and Oppression. Right and Left. Health and Illness. Reason and Sentiment. Youth and Old Age. And so on.
But those dichotomies express the extreme polarizations of reality that are a continuum. Between one pole and the other, there is not a chasm but a more or less wide and variously shaded area of gray.
Small doses of black-and-white thinking can, therefore, be useful in life. And as long as you commit to paying attention to the thousands of changing shades of gray (and the thousand rainbows), you can have a reasonable and balanced view of the world we live in.
How to Develop Balanced Patterns of Thinking
So, let’s look at four steps you could take to change a black-and- white habitual perspective.
1. Be Ready to Accept. The ability to see something from many points of view gives an individual the ability to accept and understand a situation much better and find more solutions.
2. Do Not Judge. Open-minded people are willing to listen to someone without judging or develop certain conclusions before they finish talking. Do not assume you know someone just because they shared with you a few details of their story.
3. Be Curious. Do not think that a story or a piece of information contains all the knowledge you need. Research the information from more resources. Ask questions and compare.
4. Live in the Present. The best way to walk through life’s challenges is to focus your energy and attention on what you have and where you are now.
Although the reasons we choose to think in black and white may vary, there can be infinite ways to resolve a situation and many aspects that can influence a person’s behavior or story. So next time before you put a label on someone or something, take a step back and reconsider if you really understood the root cause and all the details.
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